NEDERLAND - Within the lively halls of Nederland Elementary School, parents and caregivers came together with a shared goal: fostering confidence and resilience in their children. The latest TEENS, Inc.’s Mountain Strong Families Program session, titled Ensuring Confidence and Self-Worth in Your Child, provided families with science-backed strategies to nurture self-esteem and cultivate a growth mindset.

The evening began with a warm, family-style dinner featuring pizza, salad, and fruit generously provided by TEENS, Inc. As children engaged in enriching activities in the library, parents gathered in the Kiva at Nederland Elementary School for a grounding exercise. Led by the dynamic Chrissy Quinlan, TEENS, Inc. Parent Educator, the exercise encouraged parents to tap into love and compassion, setting the tone for an evening of connection and insight.

The heart of the session explored self-worth, a fundamental pillar of childhood development. Quinlan skillfully guided parents through the intricacies of positive self-concept and self-esteem, urging them to reflect on their beliefs about themselves and how these perceptions influence their children. Research in developmental psychology underscores the importance of parental self-worth in shaping a child’s confidence. Studies from Stanford University’s Carol Dweck highlight that children encouraged to embrace a growth mindset—the belief that abilities can be developed through effort and perseverance—are more resilient in facing challenges.

A video featuring renowned author Toni Morrison reminded us of the significance of expressing delight in our children. Quinlan encouraged parents to craft praise statements celebrating their children for their achievements and who they are. This aligns with research from child development experts, who emphasize that specific, process-oriented praise—such as “I love how hard you worked on that!”—is far more effective in building confidence than generic praise like “You’re so smart!”

The session also delved into the impact of labels on a child’s self-worth. Parents watched a thought-provoking video that examined how labels—both positive and negative—can shape identity. This led to a rich discussion about the unintended effects of labeling and how shifting language can empower children.

Quinlan encouraged parents to reframe labels in a way that fosters a positive self-concept. “Instead of saying ‘my son is shy,’ consider saying ‘he takes time to warm up to new situations,’” she suggested. Research supports this approach, showing that reframing challenges as opportunities for growth builds resilience and a stronger sense of self-worth.

As the session drew to a close, Quinlan emphasized the importance of mindful parenting and critical thinking in countering societal pressures on self-worth. She encouraged parents to create environments where their children feel valued, safe, and capable of growth.

As TEENS, Inc. continues to connect families in a shared journey of parenting wisdom and community support, the echoes of warmth and laughter in Nederland Elementary School serve as a testament to the collective commitment to raising confident, self-assured children and ensuring a brighter future for all.

Families eagerly anticipate the next session on March 4, 2025, exploring the role of limits, routines, and family rituals in fostering security and empowerment. TEENS, Inc. remains a steadfast pillar of support for local families, offering knowledge and a sense of belonging.

Free dinner and childcare are provided at each session; those interested in attending can contact betsy@teensinc.org to register.