Dr. Brandy McCans, Nederland.   Trust me, I get radical self-sabotage and the unconscious slandering of my self-worth that comes from the pattern of letting myself down. When I was in the throes of chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, it was way too easy to just not do anything and stay stuck in the cycle of despair. Thank God I found my way out of that labyrinth.

Whether it shows up as not following through with eating clean, or not moving your body for a minimum of 20 minutes each day or checking out of your spiritual practice or relationship because you are too tired to connect with yourself or your partner, it’s all a form of self-sabotage, which sneakily slithers its way into your psyche.

You must choose to change the pattern.

It will not change on its own. It will not just go away, it will not stop being a problem until you decide your life is going to be different. Once you make this decision for yourself, the energy behind your decision must be so powerful that it overrides your desire for the dysfunctional pattern.

I know it sounds crazy, but your dysfunctional patterns serve you in some way, or you would not be having it. On some level, you want to be tied into the tiredness, the laziness, the whatever-ness. These are subconscious patterns you’re dealing with and they are not easy to recognize, much less break, but allowing yourself to recognize you are responsible for your experience and knowing you have the power to change it is a great place to start.

If you reach in a little deeper, you will recognize that many of the dysfunctional patterns relate to how you value yourself. Even more, the de-valued state that arises from you letting yourself down creates addictive chemicals in your brain that cause you to continue the pattern.

How do you stop it?

Decide to. Get a hold of yourself and decide how you want your life to be. Then take action. Eat clean today, move your body today, meditate today.
Yeah, maybe you fall off your horse, but don’t stay down! Get back up as soon as you become conscious of the fall. It’s one thing to not realize you have fallen off your horse, but you are a conscious being and can recognize when you’re not upholding your end of the bargain. That is when you have to get back on and keep going.

One step in front of the other, and soon you will wake up and your life will be in a different place. You will no longer be struggling with the challenges of today and you will look back and realize, “I freakin’ rock!”

Sarah, a 47-year-old patient, came to me feeling lethargic and unmotivated. Her kids were growing up, she had a bit of empty-nest syndrome, her hormones were off and she couldn’t seem to get things accomplished easily during the day. Looking from the outside, it appeared she had everything she needed to take care of herself, but something was holding her back. The worst thing about it all was that she had a constant stream of negative self-talk that kept putting her down and making her feel worthless. Come to find out, this pattern was something her mother did as well, and Sarah unconsciously picked this habit up and ran with it. It had become a problem for her once she had nothing to focus on in her life other than herself. Once we cleared the subconscious programming and supported her hormonal health, she was able to start exercising and began feeling better about herself. Her negative self-talk vanished, and she is in the process of starting her own business making jewelry.

What is something in your self-care that you find yourself constantly falling off track with?

How are you going to end the cycle and finally commit?

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